To share or not to share the first 24 hrs back

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To share or not to share the first 24 hrs back

Post by Guest on Thu Jan 07, 2010 11:14 pm

I got this from a Facebook group I belong to Faith Deployed, it revolves around a book called "Faith Deployed: Daily Encouragement for Military Wives" I am looking forward to picking it up at the book store pretty soon. Anyway here is the question: A new military wife is looking forward to her husband's upcoming R&R. She and her husband would like to have the first 24 hours to themselves before extended family. She wants to know if it's OK to request one day of privacy before her soldier's parents come to see him. What do you think?

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Post by Psykiblue on Thu Jan 07, 2010 11:30 pm

I think that's perfectly reasonable IMO- they need time to reconnect with each other and his parents should understand that.
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Post by Guest on Thu Jan 07, 2010 11:36 pm

That's perfectly reasonable. In fact, I wouldn't request it so much as state it. If they're jerks with a history of ignoring quality time between the couple, she could always just tell them a day later or be vague about his homecoming period.

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Post by Sportyshorty0204 on Thu Jan 07, 2010 11:36 pm

I agree as well, I think that is more then resonable!
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Post by Guest on Thu Jan 07, 2010 11:44 pm

I think it is very important to have that re-connecting period. I also think it should be more than 24 hrs.

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Post by armywife96 on Fri Jan 08, 2010 1:17 am

Jon and My "rule" is the first week is ours no if ands or butts, the second week people can come out but we don't mind telling them "not to be rude but we only have 2 wks together, coming out at homecoming is a much better time as there are no goodbyes then and we aren't on a 2 wks time crunch!" Honestly I understand the relatives wanting to see them however they have been away from them when they were stateside and survived so to ask them to go a few more months shouldn't hurt them. But I really believe for the sake of the marriage the first 24 hrs to first wk is off limits!
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Post by ashleyc07 on Fri Jan 08, 2010 8:21 am

I think that the 24hr to themselves is a good idea and is recommended. Being seperated for so long is hard on a couple and having time to themselves can help their relationship a lot
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Post by LindzJ on Fri Jan 08, 2010 4:17 pm

Yes its deff okay to want at least the first 24 hours.. The last 2 deployments my husband and I just spend the r&r together with the kids.. we usually go see the family when hes back and has leave..
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Post by HouseHold6 on Sat Jan 09, 2010 11:37 pm

I think its rude for people to want to take up your randr time, i think they should be more considerate of the immeadiate family, i also think the firt few days after homecomeing is off limits too
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Post by baybeegurl5469 on Sun Jan 10, 2010 12:27 am

Yes I think its more then ok. I requested time from his friends. I mean you are his wife, his partner. I do understand that he IS someones son, but he's ur hubby. We can see mom the next day.
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Post by marisa on Sun Jan 10, 2010 9:43 am

People have to remember that guys are usually tired when they get back too, so the first few days are needed for rest as well as spouse time.

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Post by bright eyes on Sun Jan 10, 2010 11:43 am

i think danielle and marisa said it perfectly. i think the first few days are sleep time for soldier and spouse time together, and after that its negotiable.
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